Hey you!

How are you doing?

It’s been a mighty long time since I’ve written a post. I hope you are well and doing good whilst reading this.

We’re in the month of July and it’s 2024. Since my last post, life has truly been ‘lifing’. I’ve encountered some serious challenges as well as some good times.

My children continue to be my driving force and I pray God always guides and protects them because they are fantastic beings. They are truly my guiding light.

I have missed blogging. Due to life being demanding, I haven’t been able to dedicate the time I’ve wanted to writing.

I am writing today because the spirit has brought me here. I’m currently in state of heartbreak but in the same breath I know I’m blessed.

I think I have been directed to write this post in case someone reading this is also feeling heartbroken.

I want to make this clear, heartbreak can be caused by a range of things. Mine pertains to loved ones who have passed away, unfulfilled aspirations and changing relationships.

I live with a deep and ancient soul which requires a lot of work, maintenance, love and care. My soul is very tired and has been for years. Heartbreak requires a lot of recovery work so I have to work hard at picking myself up when I feel anguish, depleted and like I have nothing else to give. I often feel alone even though I am loved. I feel misunderstood by those who are meant to be close to me. I am mindful of my words and my actions regularly even when some others are not mindful of theirs. All of this can contribute to me feeling terribly exhausted, especially whilst trying to heal.

With this being said, I often decide to fight through the heartbreak. The sadness can be heavy and the moments can be very painful. I’ve recently paid extra attention to my fight and what I can do to alleviate the pain. Here are some things that have helped and I hope this can help you too:

1. Movement – There will be days you may want to stay in bed and not see anyone or do anything. Those days are needed, but eventually you are going to have to move. When you get the energy, try to go for a walk, dance, workout, whatever. Just move. This can be hard to do so try your best.
2. Music – listen to music to uplift you. Don’t opt for the music that makes you feel worse. Fight the urge to do this. Make a playlist that wants to see you happy, even if it’s for 30 minutes. Music has powers.
3. Friends – converse with the friends that really check for you. The ones who check in on you and aren’t afraid to keep it real or let you know that they love you. Make sure you check in on them too. Be there for them when they need you. Friendship shouldn’t be a one way street.
4. Write – or type your feelings down somewhere for your eyes only. This can help massively. I’m always scribbling down something. This is a form of release.
5. Cleaning – ever so often I start cleaning when angry, sad or heartbroken. It can be therapeutic and can distract you from heartwrenching moments.
6. Dine – go somewhere to dine alone. Whether for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Make the time for yourself to have something you love to eat and drink. This can be replenishing. Don’t forget to give thanks for the food and the moment.
7. Connect – pray, meditate or speak out. You don’t have to be religious or spiritual to make positive connections. I listen to a lot of meditation music and I pray. I don’t think there is any rule in how to do these things, you have to go for what fits you.
8. Gratitude – the biggest of them all. Practising gratitude has been a saviour in my life. It helps me find balance and goodness in the hardest of times. As I write I can think of 5 things I’m grateful for. These things help bring perspective and reminds me of my blessings.
9. Faith – have faith you will be ok. It may not feel this way when you’re going through it but tell yourself you will be ok. You are never alone. We are all going through something.
10. Kindness – be kind to yourself. The world is hard enough. Kindness is beautiful when it’s shared. Also be kind to others. You could change someone’s day or life through an act of kindness.

Heartbreak is hard. There are different degrees of it. Sometimes it’s unbearable. Sometimes it’s fleeting. If you are reading this and suffering from a heartbreak, I hope the pain eases soon.

Go where the love is and keep the faith.

Big love,

Natalie.xx

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